Ok, I have a great story to tell, it is a long one, but its really good. So sit back, relax and enjoy.
It starts with Chris and I and our love for the band Wilco. We started listening to them at the beginning of our relationship about 7 yrs ago, and they had a huge impact on us. We saw their shows every chance we got, all over the country! Jeff Tweedy (the lead singer) also did some of his own solo shows which were always incredible. He is a one of a kind singer/songwriter who loves to banter with his audience. He is hilarious as much as he is soulful and his music has helped us through this incredibly awful time.
A month ago tickets went on sale for his solo show at the Calvin Theatre in Northhamton, MA. Chris managed to get us 2 single tickets in the orchestra, not together. I then had a brilliant idea- I will write to Jeff through his management company, and tell him our story.
I wrote an email, telling him a bit about us, the music, and about Silas. Silas even got to be at a Wilco show at Tanglewood this summer. I requested the song Jesus, Etc. to be played for us and for Silas, because it is just so perfect and we love it.
I received an email back immediately, telling us the the letter was being forwarded to Jeff and that he may or may not play it, but that they really appreciate hearing from their fans and were sorry for our loss. It was very sweet of them and we appreciated it so much. We then began thinking that he actually may play that song for us! Why not? If he read the letter, then he might do it. It was hard to not get my heart set on it, but I also had to be realistic, this guy is a rock star who gets tons of mail, he cannot possibly acquiesce to every request.
We got to the theatre and met our friends Andrea & Chris. They love Wilco, too, and once I told them about the letter, they had to be in there. Luckily, the first person they asked had 2 extras! We got in, had a drink and then found our seats. Now Chris and I did not have seats together but the one next to me was a open so Chris sat there for the moment. We kept waiting for that person to show up and take their seat. I was so nervous. I had no clue how this was going to go, was he going to sing the song? Mention us or Silas? Not play it at all? Ugh, it was all so nerve-racking. On top of that, I kept waiting for someone to kick Chris out of his seat.
The show started, Jeff played about 4 songs, said hi to the crowd, but didn’t really banter. The next song he played was our song, the one we requested. I’ve never heard it played with so much soul, and so much love. We felt it. We held hands and we took it all in. It was beautiful. You could not even hear a pin drop in that room, the energy was incredible. I knew he was thinking about Silas and playing it for us and for our beautiful son. Immediately he goes into another song- called One by One. I LOVE this song and almost requested this to be the one he played for us. How did he know?!!! Next up were 2 new songs and then after that he stopped and started talking to the crowd.
He leaned into the microphone and said, “Some of those songs, actually most of those songs, they are dedicated to Silas.”
I freaked out. I started crying and hyperventilating and couldn’t believe it. We were shocked, stunned, floored, just blown away. He took the time to sing not just the song we requested, but other songs, and picked them out special for us and for him. He was so serious up until this point, just completely into the music and nothing else. But once he declared this dedication to our baby, he relaxed, he let go and the show took a new turn. He began to banter with the crowd, telling anecdotes, taking requests, and really enjoying himself.
He gave everything to us and Silas for those first 8 songs. Yes, 8 songs!!! It was magic. That is the only way to describe it. In my letter, I also told him that our wedding song was California Stars. Later on in the show, he played that, too! He also played a cover of one of our favorite Radiohead songs. We didn’t even know he knew it!
The final piece of amazing-ness happened just before the first encore. The guy in front of us turned around and said “you two seem like big fans, and my brother is recording this so if you want, I can send you a copy.” We were stunned and so excited we would have a copy of this incredibly personal performance. Later on, at the end of the show Chris told him that the Silas dedication was for us. He couldn’t believe it. We received the link to the show today and listened to it on our drive back from the city. If you would like to hear it, you can download a zipped copy of the show here. (that link will break after a certain # of downloads, so if you miss it, drop a note in the comments or in an email and we will make sure you get it.)
We are so thankful that Jeff Tweedy took the time to think of us, to think of our son, and to play his gorgeous music for him and for us. We will never forget that night.


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March 29, 2009 at 8:09 pm
Sally
Just….. WOW.
March 29, 2009 at 8:17 pm
Angie
WOW…it is all I have. Just so moved. I am crying here.
March 29, 2009 at 8:27 pm
Ezra's Mommy
Oh Lani, what an amazing experience. And what a beautiful way to honor Silas. Jeff Tweedy just might be my hero too, just for what he gave you two.
March 29, 2009 at 9:13 pm
Paige
Wow, you guys. That is amazing! I got chills reading the post and just listened to Jeff’s dedication to Silas and am so teary. What an incredible experience.
March 29, 2009 at 9:15 pm
Ezra's Mommy
And wow, thanks for sharing the download…I’m now enjoying Jeff Tweedy from the comfort of my own couch
March 29, 2009 at 9:17 pm
tash
Ok, this is really weird. A long time ago, I was a good violinist. A really good one. I haven’t played in ages. I am now a very bad violinist. The neighborhood band (term used loosely) is trying to recruit me to play violin for them which I keep shirking because I haven’t had time to practice.
A few weeks ago, a band member sent me a song he said he’d love to do, and have me play with them on: Jesus, Etc.
Now I feel I have to, no?
This is an amazing, amazing story. I love them, too. Now so much more.
March 29, 2009 at 10:08 pm
Tamara
Crying happy tears for you, Chris, and Silas.
xoxo
T.
March 29, 2009 at 11:18 pm
mom
anything that can bring joy to you and chris fills me with joy as well. i know how much music is a part of your lives together and this experience proves more than ever that there is a spirit out there that is guiding us along……more than ever i believe that our beautiful baby is the essence of that spirit,….he is reaching out touching us every day in so many ways,
i just love this story ….this wonderful moment in your painful life that can lift you up and give you hope…..so many things came into play to make it all work…..and i am hoping that you will have many more experiences that can make you feel happiness. lord [jesus?] knows you both deserve it.
cant wait to hug you.
March 29, 2009 at 11:57 pm
mamaliza
i am totally crying too…that is amazing, beautiful, incredible, magical. i will listen to it tomorrow, can’t wait.
sending you guys lots of love
March 30, 2009 at 12:48 am
Brad
Lani, you just made my night. That is such an awesome feel good story, just what I needed. I am downloading the show now and can’t wait to listen to it on my way to work tomorrow. We love you guys send our love to you every day.
Love, Brad
March 30, 2009 at 7:23 am
Tina
That is incredible! I have goosebumps! It makes me so happy to hear you had a piece of magic for a night.
Love,
Tina
March 30, 2009 at 8:07 am
loribeth
I have to admit, I wouldn’t know Wilco from a hole in the ground, but this is an amazing story. There are some things in life that just can’t be explained rationally, & this is one of them. : )
March 30, 2009 at 8:14 am
Clara
I loved this story so much, I am so happy for you and in tears just thinking about how amazing that night must have been.
March 30, 2009 at 10:49 am
kgk
You and Bones are the last people to whom I need to explain how much I love Jeff/Wilco. Didn’t think it was possible to love them any more… I was wrong. I know you must constantly be searching for ways to connect with Silas, and I hope this was a good one. Love you guys, wish I could have been there to see it live, but I’m looking forward to listening to the show when I get home tonight
March 30, 2009 at 11:59 am
Shanan
Spectacular. I was thrilled when I heard the story from folks this weekend, and love the recounting.
March 30, 2009 at 12:25 pm
MFA Mama
WOW! That is amazing. I’m so happy for you that you and Chris got to have such a wonderful experience at the show
March 30, 2009 at 12:54 pm
Trace
Amazing guys…can’t wait to hear it all.
March 30, 2009 at 1:17 pm
Dalene
That is so cool. I’ll have to download when I get home. Thanks for sharing this story, Lani.
March 30, 2009 at 1:22 pm
ilostaworld
Amazing story! I’m so glad your letter made such an impression, that your Silas was so honored and remembered by Jeff and the band.
Jesus, Etc. is one of our songs, too. Listening to it makes me remember good times and hope they’ll come again.
March 30, 2009 at 2:52 pm
sarah
when tina told me this story… i was so moved i burst into tears. what a wonderful tribute to silas and amazing moment for you two. i’m looking forward to listening to the show. love you guys.
sarah
March 30, 2009 at 4:05 pm
Danielle
Wow. Wow. What an amazing moment of grace.
March 30, 2009 at 4:11 pm
Michele
Wilco is now my new favorite band. Thanks for sharing that story. Love Jeff Tweety
March 30, 2009 at 6:05 pm
Jennie
I’m glad you both were able to experience Tweedy’s incredible-ness!
I’ve listened a few times now….just wow!!! I love Chris’s “Thank you Jeff” and his “because you’re awesome”….so distinct!!
March 30, 2009 at 6:55 pm
heather
i am so glad that you, chris and silas had this moment. just beautiful.
xo
March 30, 2009 at 9:01 pm
Mariah
This is such an amazing story. I am elated for you and Chris that you had such an incredible experience. Thanks for sharing your night – one you will never forget.
Sending love from SF always…
March 30, 2009 at 9:24 pm
Alyssa
This story is incredibly moving to me. Music is such a big part of my life as well. I can only imagine how it must have felt to be there, knowing he was singing for Silas, and for you guys. It’s funny how powerful it is just to keep our children’s memory alive.
I was unfamiliar with Wilco’s music until I read your post. I’ve downloaded one of there live albums and am loving it. I love to find new music!
March 30, 2009 at 9:37 pm
Matt
That was a truly beautiful story. Tweedy is a man who sings from his heart with genuine emotion. It is fitting that he would be so touched by your story and that he could so eloquently and touchingly return the favor.
“Tall buildings shake, voices escape
Singing sad, sad songs tuned to chords
Strung down your cheeks, bitter melodies
Turning your orbit around”
Those are not the words of just a ‘Rock n Roll’ star…
Much love to you both.
March 31, 2009 at 9:34 am
Sheila
love this story Lani. what a magical moment and beautiful tribute. more proof of the power words can have to connect people and that music can have to help heal and bring joy.
April 1, 2009 at 9:25 am
Mike L
that must have felt amazing. i’m so happy that you both got to experience that.
April 1, 2009 at 1:40 pm
Auntie Lis
That little beam of sunlight really comes through in your story, Lani. I know how much that meant to the two of you and I’m so glad that you wrote to Jeff. Think about the other side of it too – as much as it meant to you both, I imagine that Silas’ story will live with Jeff beyond that one performance. From hereon, the music and lyrics will have new meaning to him.
April 3, 2009 at 9:14 pm
Cs
That is amazing, it makes me so happy to hear that there are still successful artists out there that listen to the stories of their fans and care. The story of Silas is one I can’t imagine anyone ignoring but for him to acknowledge your story in such a thoughtful way is incredible. Your son is with you always but he was embracing you both on this night.
April 5, 2009 at 9:26 am
Bon
wow. wow. California Stars and the Mountain Bed are “our” songs…wow.
April 6, 2009 at 1:59 am
kalakly
What an amazing thing for him to do. I am so glad you got to hear him play for Silas. What a beautiful tribute from the heart to the heart.
xxoo